You can talk to an expert Relate counsellor online or find your nearest Relate. Getting the wider perspective One thing that can be helpful when struggling with unresolved feelings following the end of a relationship is thinking back and consider the bad sides as well as the good. Looking after yourself Of course, this is all easier said than done. What if I need more support? Will you help us? As a charity in a tough economic climate, we rely on your donations.
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Do you feel good about YOU? In this podcast, we'll explore the signs of low self esteem, and effective strategies to raise your self esteem and feel good again. Such a helpful and encouraging podcast! Lisa Marie Bobby is incredibly personable and well spoken. I will definitely be using the resources at growingself. I am so glad to hear that Krystopher. Thank you for sharing! I bet other people who are in the place you were a year ago reading this will feel hopeful hearing from you that it gets better.
All this growth is yours to keep from now until always. You earned it. I was in a serious relationship for 3 years and he broke up with me after we came back from a holiday.
Then I found out he was dating a girl who was his friend and he is always posting her pictures on his social media as if he is trying to hurt me. I tried moving on but it has been difficult. I met a married guy who after a year just stopped all forms of communication. I sometimes feel as if I am cursed as nothing is working out.
We started off as best friends we were so close we would go to each other for everything and then we ended up liking each other and we were together for 4 months.
Then I got to that stage were I really thought I was over it and I started dating again with this really really great guy. The exact day we went on a date i had a meltdown about my ex and it just hurt cause i thought i was done with him i though I was over him. He just mad me feel so happy so special. The reason we broke up is because we got into a huge argument.
I was always, always with him. I hated when he left my whole mood just changed when he left the room. I was just so attached to him i never wanted to let go of him and even the thought of it made me so sad. When he was in trouble I was always the first one there not him friends not him family. It just still hurts you know.
If he had something going on I would always still check up and make sure he all good. If you could wrote back I would really appreciate it. I would recommend that you stop dating and instead, get serious about doing the work of growth and healing that will allow you to break your attachment to your Ex and not just move on but grow from the experience.
I would recommend enlisting the support of a good therapist who really understands the addictive nature of love and who uses evidence-based approaches to breakup recovery that help you stop the obsessive thinking and take your power back. Then you can begin to do the work of releasing this attachment and getting a handle on the thoughts and feelings that are keeping you stuck in the past.
Once that work is done, THEN you will be emotionally available to begin a happy, healthy new relationship with someone who loves you back. Gotta do that work though Yazmin. Time does NOT heal, and these thoughts and feelings are unlikely to go away on their own. Wishing you all the best on your journey of growth and healing, Dr. I hope your podcast can help me move on with my life.
Thank you. This was a great podcast. Cause that could take me months even years! Also I have no real human connections anymore so how am I supposed to make new ones with this last one haunting me?
Logan, thank you for reaching out. I wonder if you too could benefit from a more active, positive, strengths-based approach that teaches you skills and strategies that support your wellness instead of your continued disempowerment? Relationships are the path of growth — not the destination. Is it possible to have this kind of treatment while the person is in a new relationship, and doing this to be able to marry? A relationship serious enough to be heading towards marriage? I say this because, first of all, your future husband deserves to be with someone who is crazy about him, and not secretly pining away for another guy.
I mean, really. It would break your heart. Also, if your partner feels your ambivalence and trust me, he might not KNOW but he will still FEEL the truth it can lead to anxiety in the relationship that will wind up pushing you further away, over time. Even though it feels impossible now there can come a time when your Ex is literally not even a though in your head. Just not important. But getting there takes intentional, strategic work. Gotta do the work!
Thank you so much for your podcast. It has really shed some light on how and why I feel like I do. My ex and I were together for 11 years in a relationship that was never great from the start mainly due to my jealousy. I blame myself for the breakup because I was a very jealous, insecure and a paranoid partner. I would go as far as saying somewhat controlling, although I never intended to be or was aware of my behaviour being that way.
We share two children and have to remain in contact for their benefit. This has caused me to just push her further away. We have recently spent time together with both of our children, it was really nice and just made me feel like we were a family again. I think it just gave me hope that we could work things out, that there was still something there between us.
I guess I am still hoping she will change her mind and her and my children will come back to me so we can be a family again and do all the things we talked about doing as a family. The pain is so bad. We are all unique, of course. Some of these include clingy or needy behavior, incessant phone calls and text messages, jealous behavior, or wallowing in self pity.
If you want your ex to want you back , there are a few things that you can start doing starting today. Your goal from now on will be to present yourself in a new light to your ex, remind him or her of the person they fell in love with, and show them a new and improved version of yourself.
You want your ex to feel inspired when they look at you — not relieved to be single. To summarize, it consists of cutting communication with your ex for a predetermined amount of time, ranging from three weeks to three months. Did I make a mistake in letting them go?
How will you know if he or she still loves you? The easiest way to tell is of course if your ex just simply tells you that they care about you and that they miss you. So what are these signs? And it's in those moments where you might want to speak up and establish a few boundaries. While it's fine if your partner wants to remain in contact with an ex, there are a few ways to know if they're crossing the line. Here are a few things your partner might say if they're still too attached to their ex , according to experts, as well as what to do about it.
If your partner is always doing favors for their ex, or leaning on them for emotional support, it may mean they're just good friends.
Or, it could also mean they're a little too attached, especially if it's happened more than once. While it's OK for the ex to be one part of a larger support system, it may still be necessary to set up boundaries as a couple , so that everyone feels comfortable. That way, you won't be left feeling like the odd man out in your own relationship.
If your partner isn't friends with their ex, it may serve as a small clue if they stop referring to their former partner as "my ex," and instead start referring to them by name. So, if it feels like something's off, don't be afraid to talk with your partner to figure out what kind of a relationship they have with their ex.
Because if they're still attached, you'll need to know. There are a million and one reasons why someone might follow their ex on social media, or simply check in on them occasionally. Curiosity is a big one. Closure is another. It's one thing to take a quick glance at an ex's social media, just to see what they're up to.
But it's something else if they're liking all of their photos, or chatting with them frequently. If you're concerned about any of it, let your partner know. In a relationship, it's important that both people feel safe and secure, which is why it's OK to bring up things like social media — and the types of relationships you have with exes.
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